An inspiring memoir with universal lessons that will help all parents through the trials of raising children. Trystan Reese is a gay transgender man married to Biff, a gay man who is not transgender. The young couple had been together a little over a year when they learned that Biff's one-year-old niece, Hailey, and three-year-old nephew, Riley, were about to be removed from their home by Child Protective Services because of abuse and neglect. Trystan and Biff made an immediate decision to take them in. Overnight, they became parents to two tiny, scared kids and took the first steps toward building a safe, loving, and nurturing home for their new family. After five years of legal battles they adopted Hailey and Riley, and soon after, they decided to grow their family biologically with a child that Trystan would carry. He had a pre-pregnancy checkup, stopped taking testosterone, became pregnant, and, in 2017, gave birth to Leo. In How We Do Family, Trystan weaves together his personal story of finding self-love, growing into his relationship and role as an adoptive parent, carrying and giving birth to a biological child, and raising confident and socially aware children- all while sharing lessons he's learned about being the best parent, partner, and person that he can be. While there are countless details that make Trystan's nontraditional family unique, there are many more ways that they are just like any other. This is a refreshing new take on family life for the LGBTQ community and beyond. Through every tough moment and touching memory, Trystan shows that more important than getting things right is doing them with love.